10 Types of 30-Year-Old Single Guys
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I think the one of the biggest reason we made it last as long as we did was through open communication right from the beginning. And he has offered it to many women, all young enough to be his daughters, since he separated from his wife of 24 years, Jo. Alfie subjects himself to fake tans and endless gym sessions, wears teenage clothes and watches his bank account dwindle due to her excesses.
I remember getting into a screaming match with my mom in the car the day after he met them. To be honest, people can have relationships with whoever they want, regardless of age. Also, as others have said, you do not have to declare his age to your parents or anyone else.
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Dear Wendy is a relationship advice blog. You can read about me , peruse the archives and read popular posts. You can also follow along on and. My boyfriend turned 30 a few days ago and I turn 19 in a couple months. I believe that at least for a while, my parents will be strongly disapproving. What is the best way to deal with that, and are age differences in a relationship really all that taboo? The key is not to be overly defensive. If things are really as genuine and happy between you as you say they are, then let the relationship speak for itself, answer any questions honestly and openly, and accept that not everyone — including your parents — are going to accept that a 30-year-old man has good intentions when dating an 18-year-old girl. If they still support you, you need to respect whatever rules they might have. Do be careful, though. Be smart and proceed with caution. The real question here is if HE is willing to meet your parents. Just treat him as you would do to a boyfriend of similar age around your parents. Paint him in the best light possible when introducing him to your parents. You will change soooo much between now and when you are 25. I just turned 25 and I definitely am not even the same person I was at 19…. You have SO much life ahead of you. Always put yourself first. And like MissDre, I have also grown and changed a lot just in the past two years. As Wendy said, let the relationship speak for itself. And in fact have, though in that case I was the older one in the relationship by 3 years. I would prepare yourself for all manner of embarassing parent behaviors, as you should anytime you introduce a S. And even a basic conversational question with completely innocent intentions is likely to reveal a significant age difference. Sure there may be implications based on a conversation when referencing job or school or something, but they would wait until later and casually ask me his age. Sometimes not always, but sometimes an older guy dates a younger girl because she will put up with stuff that an older, more experienced woman would not. His life may actually look pretty glamorous to an 18 year old. And, I completely agree with Wendy. Be careful and mindful of his actions. TECH also touched on an important point. But when she was on the other side of 21, she realized how different a 21 year old is from a 19 year old. It is a world of difference. And knowing what she knew then she looked back on the relationship and felt taken advantage of. You may think that you are in a good relationship with a good man but then look back later and see it differently. A few years ago I found out that a coworker and friend of mine who is in his 30s had been married and divorced. And what about then? I just think you need to be prepared for you and your SO to change. And when things do start changing, recognize that your relationship to evolve to suit the people you are becoming. Likewise you could wait until you are 30 to get married and still end up divorced a year later. While I agree that people change so much in their 20s, which is why it may not be a good idea to get married before you have a good idea of who you are as a person, it is possible for you to change and grow together with your partner. I currently give 100 percent to my partner but we know we want to wait to make a huge committment aka marriage until we are a little older. We are both 24 and know that we may change what we want, where we want to live, etc… in the next couple of years. I read that people change a lot until they are 30, and then they kind of coast. But even with the mistakes, it was a great time and I would probably make a lot of the same choices again. Everyone is just cautioning not to make huge commitments or life-changing decisions it will be expensive or time consuming to get out of. And I agree with kerrycontrary, it is possible to change WITH your partner. I got married at 19. Was I young and stupid? Yes, you will grow and change as a person and so will your partner. I was going to bring up my Mom. She married my Dad when she was 19 and him 24. Of course the 70s were a different time, but they were still VERY young. They have now been married for 35 plus years and I think still happy. It is possible for people to marry young and have it work. I would just recommend like everyone else to be cautious. Realize what you might miss, LW. Try to make sure this guy is worth all the time you are giving him. Be prepared for this question and be prepared with a good answer. You will have to be prepared for some pushback at the beginning. Also remember that your parents distrust of your bf comes from a good place, namely their desire to protect you and keep you from harm. The best way to handle it is maturely- behave like their adult daughter capable of an adult relationship, not like a child. The moment you behave like a child you will reinforce their parental desire to protect you from the big bad man. Side note: I started dating my husband when I was 26 and he was 39. My initial plan was to tell her I was seeing a guy, be vague on the details, and after a few more months so we ourselves could gauge the seriousness of our relationship I would tell my mom his age. About another five or six months went by, until I got rear ended right by his house and had to come clean again. She was still extremely disapproving, but at least this time she was accepting. My dad actually took it better than anyone. I waited for her to bring up meeting him before I invited him over for dinner. Ever since she met him, my mom has loved my boyfriend. Since most people viewed it negatively, it really had me down. Seriously, you know the one. We try to minimize any imbalances as much as possible. Just something to think about. Because, really, I do just fine for myself in all other aspects. You are incredibly intelligent, well-spoken and mature for a person of your age, and I think this has strongly contributed to the success of your relationship. It gets a little weird. Or my phone called her. I kept telling that to my business partner during the whole flight. As soon as I saw him I asked if something was wrong with my mom. I could be wrong, but that is exactly the wrong kind of lingo for establishing that this relationship is healthy. I felt very protective of her. If you have not been together all that long, there is no real rush for introductions. In fact, I would recommend you wait a while to see how your relationship develops. Start with friend introductions first and work up to family introductions once both you are ready. Also, as others have said, you do not have to declare his age to your parents or anyone else. There is no reason to lie to anyone but you do not have to invite everyone to criticise the age difference right from the start. Let them ask if there is a concern. Having been in your position once at 18 and again now since I was 31 , I can tell you that there is a big difference in how that age gap really works, but a lot of it depends on the individuals not the age gap. Back then, both of us were worried about appearances and it was crippling. In this relationship, we had the conversation initially and decided to see what happened. Occasionally, we trade barbs about who remembers what Him: Do you remember TAB cola? Me: Yeah, my dad used to drink it. Good luck to both of you! You can maybe get away with that with more distant relatives which, actually, my mom has suggested to me , but I highly doubt that tactic will work on parents. For the record, when my brother met Quakerboy he guessed he was 23— in reality he had just turned 18 and I was 17. I can only imagine the freakout if he had thought he was in his late 20s or early 30s. When we first started dating a little over a year ago my mom freaked out and wanted to know what the hell a 30 year old man wanted with a 24 year old girl. I told her to chill out. If so, where are they? Where are the mother s? Any assaults, domestic violence, etc? Any of them against family members, females, girlfriends and especially, mothers of his children if he has any? Are you comfortable with that history? Does he have any younger siblings, and do you know them? Have you heard any family stories from them? Do they jive with his versions of events? Questions 1, 2, and 3 could have saved me a lot of hassle, and will save you a lot if you choose to employ them prior to making any big decisions with him. Other than that, if he checks out, I wish you luck. It just depends on the maturity levels of both parties. If your parents balk, you could always remind them that 300 years ago, it was common practice for fathers to promise their 15 year old daughters to 30 year old men. July 18, 2011, 5:05 pm LW — I am 10 years younger than my husband but act 10 years older than him. It was hard for my mom to understand the relationship at first, but I did pretty much exactly what Wendy suggested — I introduced him as himself, not as his age. But I also agree with the rest of the commenters — take it slow. You will change SO much in the next few years. And if you find that you are growing into a person who still works with this man, well great! I waited for a few years before my husband and I married just for that reason. He wanted kids by the time I was 25, which, looking at it as just a 5-year plan, is very reasonable… but not something I was willing to commit to. I think this was one of the biggest issues my family had with the relationship. I think the best way to go about this is to calmly sit down and have a discussion about it. If they begin screaming and yelling which obviously happens with parents sometimes , try not to enter in a screaming match with them. Though young marriages are common, and often successful, be careful not to feel pressured into anything prematurely. How does he want to handle this? What is he going to do to reassure your parents of his sincere caring? Does he have your back? What he does here will be educational — you want someone who is forthright and open, who will stand with you if things get uncomfortable, and defend your relationship if it requires defending just as vigorously as you do. I say be honest. I remember getting into a screaming match with my mom in the car the day after he met them. Well now they love him. On another note, you are only 18. Now of course I realize at 19 I knew nothing. At 19, What seems to you like a mature, confident man to you will look completely different to your parents, people who have more life experience than you do. Show yourself to be an adult, capable of taking care of yourself and making your own choices. Then tell your parents you have chosen this man. You are at the beginning of the peak of your powers,and you really want to limit your limitations. You are very young to miss out on freedom. I liked him because I thought that he was cool and mature, with a job and a car. As time passed it became more and more apparent that I was more mature than he was. This is something that LW also might want to watch for, he may not have the maturity that a 30 year old man should. But, if the relationship is as happy and healthy as she says then hopefully her parents will warm to him with some time. However, I can tell you that as much as I love him, he might as WELL be 20 sometimes. I am definitely more mature than he is, and sometimes that is a huge problem. Some 18 year olds are very mature, and some are very immature; some 30 year old guys are mature, and some are still living the frat dream. The biggest thing is to make sure you are comfortable with the speed of the relationship and that you are able to see him as an equal. I would give anyone in ANY relationship the same advice: just keep making sure you are on the same page, and keep communicating. There are a few questions I feel the LW should ask herself: 1 Is he truly interested in and loves me for who I am as a person, not just in having sex with me? My sister had low self esteem and little relationship experience sheltered conservative upbringing , and she believed her creeper ex when he said no one else would ever love her like he did, or that the best and only way to show adult love was through sex. There are always exceptions to stereotypes, but there are lots of good reasons why many parents would rightly oppose large age gap relationships too. Having seen what happened to my sister, I think parents are justified in being a little overprotective at first in situations like this. Maturity comes with age and I have issues with a 30 year old man being with a teenager. There are 19,20,21 year old guys that are mature;the key is to find them. Honestly,what could a 30 year old man have in common with an almost 19 year old girl? And ask yourself many of the questions that have been posted here that can help you think more about the depth of your relationship. Be cautious, but remember, everyone in the world is different, and things that work for one relationship may not work for a different couple. Because you really should. Don't let your boyfriend watch it with you. Because the LW is dating an older man, she should DEFINITELY watch a movie alone? I watched it with my significantly older boyfriend at his urging, actually because he loves it himself. Their relationship was sketch to us at first but it shows things can work out. The guy in the movie is going online and targeting fourteen year olds in chat rooms. Even the predator part is just…no. Are you trying to say her boyfriend is going to kill her? I understand your thoughts too and can see your point. I just fail to see the logic in how you relate the movie to her current relationship. Internet posts are hard to read between the lines and many things can be read differently by different ppl as is proved often in the many discussions on DW. Edit also I noticed the thumbs and I wanted to say im not thumbing either way on our convo bc I know both of us have valid points and opinions. I ended the relationship for reasons that had nothing to do with his age. I was 19 and he was 32 when we first started dating, so I can certainly relate to the situation. I lived alone, had my own life, paid my own bills, worked very hard, and am intelligent. It was extremely unlikely that I would find a 19 year old similar to me. If you two are on the same page, have some similar goals, and care deeply about each other then brace yourself. I would suggest making the meeting something casual, time limited, and in a situation that brings out the best of you both. Maybe a quick coffee in a public place before one of you has an appointment. The more time you spend on that initial meeting the more risk of something being said that everyone will later regret. The first time my mom met my then boyfriend, he was still courting me. We happened to live in the same apartment building so I called to ask if he could help me with my groceries. I was with my mom, he waved happily, made a joke, and then insisted on carrying all the groceries. My mom was immediately impressed with the quick 10 minute encounter because it showed his good nature and how helpful he was, age never entered the equation. I recognized the challenges and felt free to communicate them with my family. Love comes in a lot of different packages and one of the last things I look at when it comes to compatibility is how old the guy is. My sister then 25 started to date a man who was 39 years old. Her approach was to dismiss their concerns and act defensive. Show them that you are mature enough to handle a relationship by approaching them like you would any other adult. Dead serious — or you can say, blissfully. I was 18 and my boyfriend was 30 when we first got together. A huge amount of what made our relationship so special was the fact that we never ran out of things to talk about. Sorry you had so little to contribute to an adult conversation when you were young, but some of us were actually intelligent people with lives going on and an interest in the world around us. I wondered how they would react, since my friends had not necessarily been giving me a lot of hope based on thier reactions. Firstly, he needs to be just as willing to meet them as you are to have him do so. I got lucky in that he more than happy to do so, and calm any fears my parents may have about the age difference. Wendy is right in that you cannot get defensive or offended by anything. You have to present him as a person you care deeply about, like your parents care about you. No parent wants to hand over their child because face it, in their eyes you will always be a child , to what may appear to be some ill-meaning older man. I got lucky, my parents were completely supportive and surprised me in being so. Your parents may surprise you too, and I certainly hope they do. If not, stand strong, I faced a lot of difficulties from my friends and I learned quickly that you cannot let it get to you or your relationship will suffer. I am proud to say my boyfriend and I, depsite the 15 year age difference, are engaged and just had our 2 year anniversary, so be positive, I hope the same for you. And to anyone who wonders how relationships like this happen, they do. I am not saying every person becomes a magic adult when they turn 18, but some people possess more maturity than others, relationships with age differences happen all the time. What do we have to talk about? Anything is possible, and I hear opposites attract sometimes too. Do not judge, since one day you may be in the same position. Yes, it may be true for most 18-year-olds, but not all. It may not be the same for most other people my age, but not all. Speaking as someone with experience, the biggest obstacle you need to prepare for is the different relationship needs an older person and a younger person have. My boyfriend and I have had to find a lot of middle ground; he was looking to settle down and marry, I was looking to see the world and go to college. I suspect the physical allure of a young girl, coupled with a possibly less challenging emotional component is a big attraction. As a parent of a 20 year old and a 16 year old, I would be concerned that an adult who is attracted to a teen is probably not terribly mature themselves. Of course, individual situations vary, but most of the young women involved with older men defend their own maturity and I just wonder about what the attraction for the male is?
19 AND MARRYING A 35 YEAR OLD !!
Am quite worried even if you think the two different situations are in any way in met. I've known eighteen year olds going on forty; and conversely, forty - plus year olds still dumb as a sack full of hammers. If it was like he is forcing her against her will, its a different matter entirely. If they're having sex, that's probably a different idea unless they get married. I can't sort out my own problems because my feelings are in the way of actually doing what is right. I liked him because I thought that he was cool and mature, with a job and a car. Good luck ;D Yes yes there are custodes that are ten years apart or maybe even more but you need to know that those couples are like ages 21 and older and it makes it ok but since she's a minor and he's not, it really doesn't make it ok because the 16 year has servile perspective of life then the 26 year and it kind of makes it harder, the 16 year old doesn't know anything about being an adult or having a job and a lot of stuff, I'm not trying to put her down but I'm just 30 year old man dating 16 year old that the 26 u old man has a lot more experience and I don't just mean in relationships I mean like life experiences and this can ruin the relationship even when they can hit it off great but still there's a lot more work that needs to be put in a relationship like this because of the age idea. Why she allowed to work in a pub when not old enough to drink. I'm an only child so I am not very familiar with the sibling dynamic.
